If you are considering hiring a life coach, it is important to have clear expectations of what life coaching is – and is not – so that you can find the best coach for you. It took me about 10 years of coaching, hundreds of hours of training, and thousands of client hours to embrace the term “life coach”. I had some issues with this title. There are
A very common frustration among my clients is how to make a decision. They can spin for days or weeks or months trying to figure out the best course of action. The question beneath this frustration is, "How do I make the right decision?" There is an extra layer of anxiety "on" this decision - what if you screw up and pick the wrong thing? Here's a
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What do you do when you have a test coming up or performance or some other event you are feeling nervous about?
We've been taught to try and
manage feelings that we don't like - to fix them. So we dive into the feelings in an attempt to navigate them most effectively - we analyze the feeling - we study harder -
I love working with procrastinators. Everyone has their own reasons why they procrastinate. Some of the more common causes I hear are fear of success or failure, a desire for perfection, indecision paralysis, or just not being clear on where to start. All of which can surely play a role in developing a habit of procrastination. And yet after
There is only once place that anxiety about the future ever exists: right now. It can be very compelling – I’ve been here thousands of times in my life – to think about what could happen and to assume the feelings generated by that thinking actually mean something about the future. Spoiler alert: they can't. Research has shown this is one way we
Relentlessly pursuing peace and productivity are two sides of the same coin – neither of which can get you where you want to go. Our culture perpetuates the idea that busy = best. That if you have space in your days then you aren't doing enough with your time. Busy means that you are valued, contributing, and making progress. This busyness brings
For a long time, I focused my coaching practice around helping people with time management and organization. From the beginning, I was less interested in giving people strategies and much more interested in helping them see how they find their own innate strategies. Teaching people to fish versus giving them fish made a lot more sense to me. What I
Getting rid of negative thinking is the current über popular self-development strategy of the day. It looks logical - we'll feel better if we get rid of all the bad thoughts in our minds. If we can keep our thoughts positive we'll be more positive. Avoiding negative thoughts has become a cultural obsession. Ironically, we are pretty negative about
It sounds reasonable that you would need to have clarity about how to start a project before actually starting it. But I haven't found this to be true. In fact I think the opposite is much more true. Back in 2007, I started out as a professional organizer. This was the focus of my business before I dove headlong into productivity and procrastination
Click on the video to discover a new twist on how to deal with uncomfortable feelings. It's that time of year filled with everything from birthdays to graduations, baby showers, and weddings. There always seems to be a lot going on. It can be easy to get caught up in the busyness of it all - and I definitely do - but I also love it when life
